Sunday, April 17, 2011

Adventures in Bondage - My Shibari experience

Shibari - meaning "to bind" is the name used for Japanese rope bondage


It's Brandi...The kinky one, chiming in on my bondage experience...This is probably going to be a progressive thing as I delve further into kink.  I attended a japanese rope bondage class and this is a recap for you all to enjoy.

So tonight was my first real foray into the BDSM community.  It was an absolutely wonderful experience.  I was apprehensive when I first started looking into classes, but I emailed the instructor/coordinator and got some great info and feedback and was reassured that I would be okay even going alone.

I didn't know what to expect, but upon arrival I realized they were a bunch of normal people just super kinky.  It was a fun group and everyone was very welcoming to me...the newbie.  I met the instructor, Sol, in person before the class.  He is a hilarious guy.

The class started and the fun began.  The did the intro and the guest speakers got to talk...They were super cool as well...A Shibari guy called Rigger Mortis and a fetish model called The English Tart (I absolutely loved her.  Got to talk with her and shes really sweet and very helpful)

Apparently I'm a really good bottom for the rope guys because I vocalize with my needs and take instruction well. I started out just being used by the instructor on how to initiate touch and learning about your bottoms anatomy before you try to tie them up then Sol asked me if I would like to be tied up and do a suspension and I said that I was nervous, but I wanted to do it and was really excited. He started out with me in a blindfold in the middle of class with my panties and my tank top still on and the demonstrated the excitement of the shame aspect by yanking off my shirt (I still had a little tube top bra on but I was in my undies for an entire class and that was kinda exciting) and then he did an arm cuff and demonstrated how it can be used for control by cuffing both my hands. He put me on my knees and pulled my hair (that was freaking hot) and then he put my head to the floor by pulling the rope underneath me (and there is also some nice rubbage when it gets threaded under your naughty bits.)

Then he started the more complex ties with my arms behind my back in a chest harness and then he did a partial suspension with one leg up and then he tied my foot back. I also got my hands tied up in front of me after he released those from behind my back while I was suspended and tied them together and to another woman's bound leg.

People get different reactions while being bound and apparently I am the kind of person that gets sleepy in suspensions. I couldn't stop yawning. I came down and watched Sol tie up a boy and demonstrate some other ties. Afterwards I got tons of compliments from everyone and talked to the instructor and he invited me to do rope play again when I wanted to. So we will see how that goes. I would like to learn suspensions. I will be going to class again though.

Hope it was entertaining for you all at least.  I highly recommend going to a class if you are interested.  Its a fun artform and something great to add to sex play.  I found the class through a fetish networking site called Fetlife.com.  I signed up to find information on BDSM and it is a great place for the curious to explore and learn new things.  So all in all it was a very good experience.  Sorry for the novel everyone, but its the next best thing to dragging all your behinds with me to class ;)


*photograph used was found on facebook on the shibari fan page no copywrite infringment was intended, just an example of what the artform looks like*

10 comments:

  1. Very interesting. I am interested in bondage and being submissive and it sounds right up my alley...though I'm nervous to really get into it with strangers. Sounds like a great time though! Thanks for sharing.

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  2. So proud of you, my little freak =)

    Don't really understand the sleepy thing though, and why you would want to get in to that particular aspect of it if that is your reaction. Meh.....Can't wait for more!

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  3. Now see, I would not be able to do that in front of a class... or guy. The whole being in nothing and panties would ruin the experience for me. I am super self concious over my body. I'd probably cry being exposed like that to so many people.

    It does sound hot though. *sighs* I'll only ever enjoy this via eroticas and your post, lol. I agree, the whole hair yanking bit, hot!

    Are you going to post about your next class? This was fun.

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  4. I started looking after the last post when you mentioned shibari and what site should I find but fetlife so I signed up then. Not sure if I could do it go to a class alone but I'd love to try one day. Shibari has interested me for a while, I think it's beautiful and the submission appeals a lot.

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  5. Interesting... I learn something new every time I stop in here. You are a brave girl!

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  6. Jewels- I would totally reccomend signing on fetlife and finding out whats around you if your interested. I am starting out all alone. I have my friend B, but shes not into the same things so I am going it alone to events. I would start with a munch or a class that is held at a place your familiar with. Its worth it to find people of like tastes and its fun.

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  7. B- the tied up on the ground and jearked around was hot, but the tied up and suspended thing is kinda like how yoga feels for me. Its really peaceful.

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  8. J Rabbit- The atmosphere was so accepting and friendly it wasnt really bad at all..trust me i have some major body hating issues, but I was more comfortable there than I am at the beach in my bathing suit sometimes.

    The next class isnt till next month, but I will definately be going. Im planning on writing about all my experiences. I really want to try to be more comfortable with it. Its been a struggle to accept what I want and need. The more I write about it and talk about it the easier it is to accept this side of myself.

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  9. Jessica- find a friend that will go with you and go to a class. Its so worth it. Even if you cant find a friend going it alone wasnt so bad. I wrote the instructor before to get a feel for what he was like and how he ran his class. You could do that and see how you feel and then decide if you would like to go.

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  10. Randy- Thanks...I'm suprised I was brave enough without liquid courage :)

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