Tuesday, April 26, 2011

The Lovely Gina Gordon Talks about "setting the mood"

Some of you that follow my other blog may know about the AMAZING Gina Gordon.

She's a modest woman, but I assure you she is the cream of the crop when it comes to writing some good smutt.  She seriously sets panties on fire her stuff is so hot.

I pestered the hell out of invited her to come over and do a guest post on setting the mood.  She graciously took time out her busy blog tour for her latest release "Temptation in Lingerie" which I reviewed on my other blog.

So without any more squawking from me...I give you Gina Gordon

Getting in the Mood

For those of you who don’t know me, I am a romance writer. My friend Brandi seems to think I’m some kind of sex guru LOL Really, I just have a good imagination. Lucky for my husband *wiggles eyebrows*

When it comes to setting the mood in my books, I go with what I like. My number one writing rule is if I don’t think it’s sexy, I won’t write about it. Readers can read between the lines, and when you don’t believe in what you’re writing, it’s noticeable.

Although there is always drama and conflict pulling apart the hero and the heroine in a romance novel, it is still the ultimate fantasy. Everything is perfect—the couple, the setting, the sex, and the happily ever after. Unfortunately, real life isn’t always perfect. But for you men out there, there are a few essential—universal—things you need to know in order to get your lady in the mood.

It’s all about her—

This is rule #1. I will repeat it. It’s all about her! Women, especially women who may have children, spend their day washing, dressing, cleaning and taking care of a family and in a large number of cases, all while working forty hours a week. They are constantly doing for other people, thinking about the needs of other people. Women’s minds are constantly in flux and it is not very often that we sit and concentrate on ourselves. So if you do nothing else, if you make the time all about her, you can do no wrong.

Take care of the day-to-day drama—

If you want your woman to relax and enjoy herself, send the kids away with a plan to have their homework completed, their lunches for the next day made, their clothes and pyjamas packed and ready to go. Feed the pets. Empty the dishwasher. Take out the garbage…whatever household chores that are done every night, do them. Otherwise, as soon as your wife takes her first bite of a chocolate covered strawberry, (yes you want to get those too!) she’ll be up to pull the chicken from the freezer to make tomorrow night’s dinner. That’s just what we do. So take care of it.

Set the mood—

Candles. Music. Scent. Flowers. Even if you have the type of wife who enjoys pizza and the television as an idea of a romantic night (like me!) there is nothing wrong with setting the mood around you. Something that will foster the idea that you’ve thought about making the time special, that you’ve thought about her. Again, do you see a pattern here? It’s all about her.


I am a huge believer that lingerie makes a woman feel sexy. So whether the outfit is planned ahead of time, or it may be something you buy for your lady as a gift for your special night, there needs to be some fancy panties. Not to mention, don’t you like the idea of the big reveal later on when your woman comes out wearing something you’ve been fantasizing about all damn day.

Take. Your. Time.—

Remember, it’s all about her. And this doesn’t just apply to sex. Enjoy your meal. Enjoy conversation. Enjoy her. Then when it’s finally time for you to get some, take your time again. Start at her toes and work your way up. Slowly. Seductively. By showing her that you enjoy her body she will give you anything you want LOL

So there you have it men. By no means am I an expert. I just know what I like. But I don’t think there is a woman in the world that would disagree with me.

Gina Gordon is an erotic romance writer living in Toronto, Canada. Her latest release, Temptation In Lingerie, is available now from Lyrical Press. You can find out more about Gina at http://www.ginagordon.net/

All I gotta say is her husband is a lucky man ;)
If he gets even half of the things acted out on him as "research" for her books he must be a damn exhuasted, but happy husband!
If you like reading smutt you should go check out her books.  They are quick reads, but they are jam packed with dirty goodness.

Thanks so much Gina for stopping in and doing this post!


  1. LOL...I guess I now know why my husbands naps every day (:

    Thanks for having me ladies!! Great blog.

  2. Wonderful guest post! All men should read this. :)

  3. Totally agree with you Jewels!